Muslim Shaadiyon ka Waqt — Dobara Ghour Karne ki Zarurat

 

Nikah kisi Muslim ke liye sirf ek dunyawi khwahish ya riwaj nahi, balki ek hukm hai jo hum Allah ke kehne par ada karte hain. Agar ye hukm na hota, to hum sab shaayad isay apne tareeqe se anjam dete. Na Qazi ki zarurat hoti, na gawahon ki, na mehr dena parta, na rishtedaariyon ki pabandi.

Nikah ki khoobsurti yeh hai ke yeh humari Deen ko mukammal karta hai. Aur is bandhan se Allah ki raza hasil hoti hai. Har manzil par barakah hoti hai — SubhanAllah!

Lekin aaj mein aik mamool par tawajju dilana chahti hoon — jo ke thoda badla ja sakta hai taake aur zyada barakah mile:

Raat der tak hone wali Shaadiyon ka riwaj.

Hindustan aur Pakistan mein zyadatar Muslim receptions Maghrib ya Isha ke baad rakhte hain. Sirf chand ilaqay — jaise Kashmir, Kerala, aur Assam — din ke waqt shaadiyan karte hain. Aakhir kyu? Din ki shaadiyan kyu nahi ho rahi zyada? Sunnat kya kehti hai?

Sunnat yeh kehti hai: jald khana, jald sona.

Lekin humari shaadiyon mein sab ulta hai.

Isha ke baad log apne behtareen kapdon aur zevar ke saath ghar se nikalte hain. Aksar khawateen ke saath mahram nahi hota, aur wo taxi drivers ke saath safar karti hain — full make-up aur mehngi jewellery ke saath.

Khana late milta hai. Rasmein late hoti hain. Aur jab log ghar wapas pahunchte hain, to tahajjud ka waqt ho chuka hota hai. Jo log aam taur par Fajr ke liye uthte hain, wo bhi is din chook jaate hain.

Kuch log kahenge: "Ek shaadi hi to hai, roz thodi hoti hai?"

Bilkul. Aur isi liye is din ko aur bhi barakah se bhar dena chahiye.

Lunch Reception kyu nahi?

Kya farq hai dinner aur lunch party mein?

Sab kuch same — mehmaan, khana, venue — lekin zyada sukoon, suraksha, aur Sunnat par amal.

Din mein roshni hoti hai, safar asaan hota hai, buzurg aur bachay aram mein hote hain. Diabetes ke mareez bhi aram se enjoy kar sakte hain. Aur sabse ahem baat — Namaz miss nahi hoti.

Aur haan, shaadiyon ke aur bhi mamoolat hain jo behtar banaye ja sakte hain. Lekin kahin se to shuruaat honi chahiye.

Yeh ek dil se nikla paighaam hai un sab logon ke liye jo apni ummah ki behtari chahte hain.

Agar aapki shaadi hone wali hai, to zaroor is par sochiye.

Agar shaadi ho chuki hai, to apne rishtedaron mein is baat ko phailaiye.

Hum badlaav laa sakte hain.

Hum kisi ke liye asaani ban sakte hain.

Hum Allah ki raza hasil kar sakte hain.

Allah se dua hai ke humein aise kaam karne ki taufeeq de jo usko raazi kar de. Ameen.

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